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"So Patti, why are you so fat?" This is what a 5 year old child asked me when I was roughly 12 or 13 years old. At that time in my life, I weighed roughly 170 to 175 pounds. At 5’2”, I was Fat Patti. I was so offended and hurt by one of my favorite little kids in the world, it was heartbreaking for me. But it really wasn’t something that kick started my weight loss…I didn’t really know what would. I really couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t lose weight, but I wasn’t really trying either. But I was extremely active in cheerleading yet I couldn’t lose a pound. (Yes, I was the fat cheerleader) Then high school came, and I really started to care about what I looked like. But I still couldn’t lose weight. I was called fatso, chunky, cow, everything you can imagine. But I still didn’t lose weight. I guess it just wasn’t meant to be for the longest time.

When I was with my ex-fiancé, I actually put on about another 20 pounds, but he didn’t have a problem with that. I really didn’t think anything about it; I was ok with me, kinda. I wouldn’t undress with the lights on. What happened to me that I started to finally lose weight? I got sick, simple as that. Turns out I have asthma and if I eat certain foods it can cause an almost immediate reaction, but that only jumpstarted my weight loss. Within a month of being diagnosed, I met my Matt. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He has spent the past 4+ years telling me how beautiful I am, how wonderful I am, and that I can accomplish anything. I think every woman, or man for that matter, needs someone like my Matt. I hope that every person does find someone to make them as happy as I am now.

“My body possesses solidness and curve, like the ocean. My weight mingles with Earth’s pull, drawing me onto the sand…Time goes by quickly. One day we will blink and open our eyes as old women. If we spend all our energy keeping our bodies small, what will we have to show for our lives when we reach the end? I hope we have more than a group of fashionably skinny figures.” Chernik

“When I look back, it is that impulse I am most proud of. The impulse that told me that I deserve to live free of shame, that my body is not enemy and that pleasure is my friend and my right. Without this core, not even fully jellied in my teenage mind but powerful nonetheless, how else would I have learned to follow and cultivate my own desire? How else would I have learned to listen to and develop the language of my own body? How else would I have learned to initiate, sustain, and develop healthy intimacy, that most valuable of human essences?” R.Walker

“Please don’t call me a survivor. I really don’t feel like one. Not yet, anyway. I have a lot more healing to do, and it’s going to take time. I am just a woman who has a story to tell, and I am learning how to make it heard.” Morgan

“Regardless of their possession of X or Y chromosomes, we base judgments of gender on people’s appearance- their secondary sex characteristics, their demeanor, their style of dress, their hair…In a nutshell, femininity consists of having longish hair; wearing makeup, skirts, jewelry and high heels; walking with a wiggle; having little or no observable body hair; and being in general soft, rounded (but not too rounded) and sweet smelling. This nutshell is important because a woman’s attractiveness to men is the primary measure of her worth…What is our reward for this constant attention to detail, our ever-vigilant concern with our appearance? The acceptance and approval of those (often men, occasionally women) in power.” Myhre

“All my life the media and everyone around me have told me that fat is ugly. Which, of course, is just a cultural standard that has many, many medical lies to fall back upon. Studies have shown that fat people are unhealthy and have short life expectancies. Studies have also shown that starving people have these same peculiarities.” Lamm

“Being pro-woman, being pro-choice, means being supportive of any reproductive choice a woman makes for herself. Women, of any age, in any social situation, have the right to bear children. We have the right to choose when, where, with whom and how we bear children. We have the right to abort a pregnancy, for whatever reason we may have. If we have no money, if we have no support, if we wish to continue our education or career uninterrupted, if we are being abused, if we were raped, it our right to not bear a child. If we become pregnant, through any circumstance, we have the right to give birth the way we want to.” Crews

Being a woman in our society today calls for some sort of belief that skinny is beautiful, no matter how realistic this goal is for most people. During our lifetimes, many of us struggle with our body image. The women in these stories explore their own tragic upbringing to share their heartbreak and heartache that they endured to enlighten each of us that no matter how much a woman goes through, she can come out a better woman and better person all around. Explore for yourself what condition is your self-image in? Do you look in the mirror and see what’s really there? Or do you look in the mirror and see a funhouse distortion? Read the stories in “Body Politic” and decide for yourself. Are you happy with yourself?

Do you believe in abortion? Though I have personally not had an abortion, I have several friends that I have been a support system for after they have had theirs. I believe in the woman’s right to chose what she wants to do with her own body. Do you think that abortion should be illegal again so that so many women will go through illegal abortions and nearly lose their lives or reproductive organs? Think about it seriously and check out the links on this page to learn a little more about reproductive rights :)